Dear wonderful followers, sisters, friends.......
First, I want to thank you for reading. Something about knowing that people are out there caring about my reflections makes me feel less alone. You are special to me,even if you are silent.
Second, As a psychology student, I've been trying not to drop the ball in my studies. Naturally, I've come to be intensely curious about reactions to loss or trauma...hummmmm...I WONDER why? As such, I am currently doing research for a paper to be presented in my grief, loss and bereavement class for Grief counseling and Grief therapy.
I need your help.
If you have suffered the trauma of a miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss, please take the time to copy the below list of questions and attach it as a comment. Also, if you could include a brief bio of your loss, it would add mounds to my cause. I promise to keep your identity confidential, and am ever so grateful to all of you for your help. Please understand that you do not not not not not have to have had therapy for your loss. I am interested in how women cope with their grief, and this is only a small sample of the questions I actually wonder about.
I have almost reached my year anaversary for losing the first of our twins, little Alexander...and I've been having a hard time pressing forward in this semester. I really appreciate all of you for helping...please don't feel you have to if it feels too raw. ((HUG))
Interview Questions: Please start with a short bio of your circumstance of loss.
1. Did grief therapy/counseling help directly after your loss?
2. How did your coping style differ from your spouse? If
noticed, how did that difference affect you?
3.Research suggests that
parent's often grieve differently. Did your appreciation/understanding for your spouse's grieving style change with time?
4. At what point did you feel that your grief was the most intense?
5. Did you ever catch yourself feeling happy, okay, or positive in any way and then feel guilty about it? Did you feel that you had to be in pain to be faithful to the loss?
6. What words and actions were helpful from friends and family; what words and actions were hurtful?
7. It is generally considered a myth that couples divorce after loss of a child--though most people think the opposite is true. Did you ever feel that your marriage was in trouble or unbearable?
Thank you ALL....You make each step a little easier to take. ((HUG))